Why Do I Keep Doing This?
Jamie writes: Hi i am a married guy who about 10 years ago lost everything to a Wonderful Mistress. i swore i would never do this again but there’s always this burning desire deep inside me to do it...
View ArticleFluffing is Empowering
For those of you who don’t know what fluffing is I’ll explain that first. Fluffing is a term used in cuckolding where the submissive male usually sucks on the alpha/bull male to prepare/get him hard...
View ArticleThink Twice Before You Approach a Domme
This has been the weekend of faux subs and if you don’t know what faux means, Google it. It never ceases to amaze me the number of men out there who think they’re submissive or pretend to be...
View ArticleAre you a Sub or Not?
If you’ve ever had the words fake, flakey or just plain not submissive used by a Dominant to describe your behavior then you probably want to read this. I’ll address this to men because I honestly...
View ArticleHow to Serve an Online Domme
First of all let me preface this article by saying that I will be stating the obvious which in turn will piss some people, mostly guys, off. There seems to be some sort of misconception in the world of...
View ArticleSubmission with Condition
Hi boys and girls, I’m back with another opinion piece and who knows, maybe some valuable advice will come out of it. I’m noticing a not-so-nice trend within our community. Unfortunately boys I’m going...
View ArticleDoes Sucking Cock Make Me Gay?
Pat probably thinks I forgot about him but I didn’t. He wrote me last month, yeah I know I’m a procrastinator with way too many balls in the air, but he always makes such valid points that I know...
View ArticleMaintaining a Balance in Online Domination
Rich writes with a dilemma he’s in that faces many men who are playing in the online Domination scene. Rich writes: (this question is redacted and paraphrased for privacy purposes) “…Dr. Sue this...
View ArticleSubmissive or Sucker?
Are you submissive or are you just a sucker? In all fairness that’s a relative question. Relative because what some may view as a person being pushed around or bullied can in fact be something the...
View ArticleSubmissive Sluts You’re Cheating Yourselves
I see you there lying in the gutter with your phone in your hand shaking, perspiring, your mouth dry, feverishly checking the listings of your favorite phone sex site or chat line for the latest...
View ArticleCan a Woman Respect a Sexually Submissive Partner?
Can a woman respect a sexually submissive partner? I get asked this quite often by men who are contemplating cuckolding and more specifically sucking cock in front of their partner. Don asked this...
View ArticleWhy Do We Engage in Risky Fetish or Sexual Behavior?
Pat wrote me a while back (yes I know I’m slow but he knows I always get to it eventually) wondering why we engage in risky behavior. Now because of the subject matter of this site I’ll obviously be...
View ArticleThe Shame of Submission
So many of the gentlemen I speak with find themselves ashamed of their submissive feelings. Pesky little feeling shame is. It’s always there to kill any enjoyment we might be feeling. So let’s start...
View ArticleKink Shaming or Common Sense?
In this world of ultra-sensitive people everyone seems afraid to speak the truth for fear of pissing off or hurting someone. The problem with this logic is that in the end we lose out on common sense;...
View ArticleDeath by Domme
Rich writes: Hello Dr. Sue maybe you have touched on this subject in one way shape or form but we know after some individuals have lost everything to there Findoms, and in some cases has i’m sure...
View ArticleAm I a Porn Addict?
Bob writes: …i have been serving a Findom for almost going on five years now. I have been masturbating to Her clips and pics since the very beginning. Now i have did a little reading on this subject...
View ArticleAre YOU a Needy Sub?
The issue of a submissive being too needy comes up way more than you’d think. No matter what type of domination is being done; pro, online, lifestyle or a combination thereof, an overly clingy sub will...
View ArticleBody Worship is Not a Right
A classic ‘tell’ of the sub of convenience (when a male is submissive only when it suits him) is when they contact you and ‘assume’ that YOUR body is THEIR playground. When I first speak to a sub I ask...
View ArticleSo Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex Anymore
Many of the men I talk to tell me that they are no longer having sex with their wives. In some cases women have shut down for over a decade or more. That makes me sad. Here they are in this perfectly...
View ArticleThe Forgotten Women of BDSM
Most of the femme domme world is occupied by submissive males. And in the world of masters the ratio tends to be a fifty-fifty split between female and male. So where does that leave the submissive...
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